When couples come into my San Diego office, I often hear: “The second I bring something up, he gets defensive.” “We end up fighting about his reaction instead of the actual issue.” In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, defensiveness is one of the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” that predict serious relationship distress. It’s painful, but it’s also […]
When couples arrive at my San Diego office and sit down on the couch, I often hear some version of the same frustrated complaints: “He’s always trying to fix me instead of just listening.” “She gets upset that I’m trying to help. I don’t understand what I’m doing wrong.” Underneath those complaints is a powerful
When couples reach out to my San Diego office, I often hear some version of: “We don’t really fight. We just… exist next to each other.” “It feels like we’re co-parents and housemates, not partners.” “We’re friendly, but the spark is gone.” From the outside, everything looks “fine.” You share logistics, pay bills, run errands,
When You’re Tired of Having the Same Fight Over and Over I often hear the following from couples I help: “We keep having the same argument.” “It always ends in a blow-up or shutdown.” “I’m still angry about things that happened years ago.” Underneath these repeated fights is often a deep, painful resentment. You may
From the outside, your relationship might look fine. You share a home, careers, maybe kids. You coordinate school drop-offs, bills, birthdays, and groceries. Friends and family may even say you’re “rock solid.” But inside, it feels different. You may feel more like roommates than romantic partners. Conversations revolve around logistics. Sex and affection may feel
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