Relational Jiu Jitsu is all about sliding underneath the surface of a poorly delivered bid for connection to capture what’s most meaningful in the bid. Rather than fighting fire with fire, this is all about seeing the punches and maneuvering gracefully to the side of them.
We can either turn toward, turn way, or turn against. Our relationship future rests predominantly on which of these 3 doors we walk through and how often we choose to walk through them.
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Ultimately, raising a child effectively often means putting ourselves aside. We have to do our best to consistently present as our best versions of ourselves as individuals and as partners so that our child has his/her best chance of developing in the healthiest ways. Every moment matters and your child is always watching and absorbing information, even when you might feel s/he is not.
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Shame is one unfortunate feeling that often appears in couples with a low desire partner. The low desire partner can often suffer from feeling as though there is something terribly wrong with him/her. This partner might incorrectly believe that this lack of sexual interest must mean s/he does not like, love, and/or respect his/her partner anymore.
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Also, part of your value and source of happiness may be missing without sex. Perhaps, as a man or woman, it used to bring you tremendous joy to sexually please your partner, and now that that is missing, you are, to some extent, less joyful, satisfied, and happy. For men, in particular, this can be even more potently painful, as their value is often linked to pleasing their partner sexually. So, with that out of the equation, it can further add to pain linked to a perceived lack of masculinity/manhood and worth.
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In this country in particular, another message that often bombards us all from birth is the idea that our negative emotions are bad. Not only is this incredibly untrue, but when we believe this, it directly contributes to procrastination. If we aren’t supposed to feel distressed, worried, fearful, overwhelmed, guilty, shameful, irritated, and dread, just to name a few common ones related to procrastination, then it will be quite the challenge to begin working on a task where some or all these emotions burst up to the surface.
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It can sometimes be unclear whether something is a healthy versus unhealthy coping mechanism for stress. For instance, is distracting oneself from a stressful and overwhelming situation an example of a healthy or unhealthy coping mechanism? In this blog, we will review some of the most notable forms of healthy and unhealthy coping mechanisms, as
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We are taught that stress is a bad thing, something we must avoid at all costs. We are bombarded with messages like, “Stress causes Cancer”, “Stress impairs the immune response”, and, as a result, we are instructed to strive for a stress-free, peaceful life. The reality of stress, though, is quite different and far more
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Modern professional men are very busy and have many responsibilities on their shoulders: providing for their families, paying bills, working, maintaining friendships, etc. With all these responsibilities being juggled on a daily basis, it’s easy to forget that even men need to prioritize their self-care. To start things off—self-care is real, even for men. Self-care
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It’s Monday—you’re up all night stewing on a project. Tuesday—your to-do list grows longer and longer no matter how hard you work. Wednesday, Thursday, Friday. Before you know it, that Sunday night anxiety is settling in again and the week has passed in a blur. Thus begins the story of many busy professionals as stress creeps in from every angle.
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