How Do I Tell My Husband He Needs Therapy? | Therapists for Men in San Diego
When the person you love is struggling, it can be hard to know how to help. Many women find themselves wondering how to start the
September 1, 2025
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Why Men Bottle Things Up: The Hidden Costs of Emotional Suppression | How Society Trained You to Shut Down—and How You Can Start to Undo It
There’s a reason you were never taught how to talk about your feelings. For most men, emotional suppression isn’t a personality trait—it’s a learned response.
March 25, 2025
The Quiet Pressure of Being “The Strong One” in a Relationship | What Happens When You’re Always the One Holding It Together
If you’re a man who’s used to being “the strong one” in your relationship, chances are you carry more than most people realize. Maybe you’re
March 18, 2025
How Do I Get My Husband to Open Up About His Feelings? | Understanding the Culture Around Men’s Emotions and Mental Health
If you’ve ever asked your partner “What’s wrong?” and been met with a dismissive “I’m fine,” you’re not alone. For many women, it can be
March 11, 2025
Life Hacks for Men with Anxiety | San Diego Anxiety Therapy for Men Who Want to Stay in Control
Anxiety isn’t always panic attacks and sleepless nights. For many men, it’s a lot more subtle—and a lot easier to overlook. Maybe you find yourself
March 4, 2025
The Fifth Potential Reason My Partner and I Fight So Poorly and What to do about it (According to a Relational Life-Trained Therapist)
Do you often find that during fights, your partner pulls away, leaving you feeling abandoned and unsure of how to fix things? Perhaps they withdraw
December 27, 2024
The Fourth Potential Reason My Partner and I Fight So Poorly and What to do about it (According to a Relational Life-Trained Therapist)
When you and your partner fight, do you or you both resort to some low blows? Do you say some nasty things to one another
December 27, 2024
The Third Potential Reason My Partner and I Fight So Poorly and What to do about it | According to a Relational Life-Trained Therapist
Do you feel the need to let your partner know, in exquisite and completely honest detail, the exact ways you feel s/he disappointed, angered, infuriated
December 18, 2024
The Second Potential Reason My Partner and I Fight So Poorly and What to do about it (According to a Relational Life-Trained Therapist)
Have you ever found yourself thinking, “I need to control my partner” to make our relationship work? If so, you’re not alone, but this mindset
December 16, 2024
Why My Partner and I Fight So Poorly and What to do about it (According to a Relational Life-Trained Therapist)
Do you ever find yourself wondering, why my partner and I fight so often? You’re not alone. Many couples struggle to navigate conflict in ways
December 12, 2024
What are Some of the Most Common Obstacles to Turning Toward Your Partner and What Can We Do About Them?
Relational Jiu Jitsu is all about sliding underneath the surface of a poorly delivered bid for connection to capture what’s most meaningful in the bid. Rather than fighting fire with fire, this is all about seeing the punches and maneuvering gracefully to the side of them.
September 5, 2024
Turning Toward: The Single Biggest Predictor of Relationship Happiness and Stability
We can either turn toward, turn way, or turn against. Our relationship future rests predominantly on which of these 3 doors we walk through and how often we choose to walk through them.
September 5, 2024
One Exciting Strategy to Rescue a Failing Relationship with a Couple Who Have Children
Ultimately, raising a child effectively often means putting ourselves aside. We have to do our best to consistently present as our best versions of ourselves as individuals and as partners so that our child has his/her best chance of developing in the healthiest ways. Every moment matters and your child is always watching and absorbing information, even when you might feel s/he is not.
July 25, 2024
Why is Sex Unsatisfying in My Relationship?
Shame is one unfortunate feeling that often appears in couples with a low desire partner. The low desire partner can often suffer from feeling as though there is something terribly wrong with him/her. This partner might incorrectly believe that this lack of sexual interest must mean s/he does not like, love, and/or respect his/her partner anymore.
July 3, 2024
My Partner and I Aren’t Having Sex. Do We Really Need to Fix This?
Also, part of your value and source of happiness may be missing without sex. Perhaps, as a man or woman, it used to bring you tremendous joy to sexually please your partner, and now that that is missing, you are, to some extent, less joyful, satisfied, and happy. For men, in particular, this can be even more potently painful, as their value is often linked to pleasing their partner sexually. So, with that out of the equation, it can further add to pain linked to a perceived lack of masculinity/manhood and worth.
June 6, 2024
How to Help an Irrational Person with Tremendous Fear
In this country in particular, another message that often bombards us all from birth is the idea that our negative emotions are bad. Not only is this incredibly untrue, but when we believe this, it directly contributes to procrastination. If we aren’t supposed to feel distressed, worried, fearful, overwhelmed, guilty, shameful, irritated, and dread, just to name a few common ones related to procrastination, then it will be quite the challenge to begin working on a task where some or all these emotions burst up to the surface.
May 29, 2024
Why Do I Procrastinate and What Can I Do About It?
In this country in particular, another message that often bombards us all from birth is the idea that our negative emotions are bad. Not only is this incredibly untrue, but when we believe this, it directly contributes to procrastination. If we aren’t supposed to feel distressed, worried, fearful, overwhelmed, guilty, shameful, irritated, and dread, just to name a few common ones related to procrastination, then it will be quite the challenge to begin working on a task where some or all these emotions burst up to the surface.
April 16, 2024
Why Do I Have Anxiety and Obsessive Thinking and What Can I Do about It
Another one of the most critical and common contributors to an anxiety condition is growing up in an environment that exposes one to it in a significant way. Significant can take the form of one or several events that affected you strongly and/or a continuous and consistent exposure to anxious conditions. For instance, perhaps you regularly witnessed mom or dad express specific fears and worries about a variety of topics. When you consider these ways in which you can develop anxiety conditions and struggles, one of the key takeaways is it is not your fault.
April 4, 2024
Tips to Support Your Partner with Addiction: Expert Advice
Communication is the foundation of any successful relationship, and when one partner is struggling with their mental health, it’s important to address it together. If you suspect that your partner could benefit from seeking professional help, it’s essential to approach the conversation with empathy and understanding.
February 27, 2024
Discover 6 Benefits of Marriage Counseling for Strong Relationships
One of the key benefits of marriage counseling for already healthy relationships is that it provides a safe space for couples to discuss their concerns. Sometimes, couples may have difficulty effectively communicating their needs and desires to each other.
February 15, 2024
At What Point Should We Seek Couples’ Therapy
A licensed therapist can help you and your partner develop healthier communication strategies, gain a deeper understanding of each other’s needs and emotions, and work towards a more fulfilling and productive relationship.
January 16, 2024
How Do You Know You’re Ready for Therapy?
It’s no secret that many people go through their lives feeling unfulfilled. Often, they don’t even realize it until it’s too late. They go through the motions day after day, year after year, never stopping to question whether or not they’re truly happy.
January 10, 2024
What to Do When Your Partner Refuses Couples’ Therapy
It’s a common scenario: one partner wants to go to couples’ therapy and the other refuses. It can be a frustrating and confusing situation. So,
December 12, 2023
Knowing the Difference Between Unhealthy and Healthy Coping Mechanisms for Stress
It can sometimes be unclear whether something is a healthy versus unhealthy coping mechanism for stress. For instance, is distracting oneself from a stressful and
December 11, 2023
Understanding How to Harness Short-Term Stress for Your Benefit
We are taught that stress is a bad thing, something we must avoid at all costs. We are bombarded with messages like, “Stress causes Cancer”,
December 7, 2023
Does Online Therapy Work (and If So, How Well)?
When the COVID-19 pandemic began a handful of years ago, so much of the world had to adapt quickly. One of those adaptations was the
November 6, 2023
Maintaining Healthy Boundaries During the Holiday Season
For many, if not all of us, we both look forward to and dread the holidays. They are both a lovely and much-needed break from
November 1, 2023
Two Incredible Approaches to Manage Obsessive Thinking and Intense Emotions
The reality is, the only people with whom we are responsible for is ourselves. Furthermore, we cannot change anyone other than ourselves.
September 7, 2023
One Critical Approach to Save a Failing Relationship
If you find yourself in a relationship teetering on the edge of constant conflict and uncertainty, there is a path to reclaiming the love and happiness you once shared.
August 30, 2023
The Benefits of Couples’ Therapy for Relationships in Crisis
Do you and your partner constantly feel tense, stressed out, and irritated with one another? Maybe you feel as though you, your partner, or both of you are constantly picking on each other for every little thing. Does it feel like you two are always fighting, often about the same things? You’re in crisis mode and you likely feel incredibly stuck, frustrated, and exhausted.
August 22, 2023
Why Men in Relationships Must Work on Anger Management
Experiencing anger is a human and crucial emotion. As men, we have to ensure we express it, however, in healthy ways as often as possible, especially in heterosexual relationships.
August 15, 2023
How to Overcome a Fear of Flying
When we get preoccupied with anxiety, fear, and dread about an upcoming flight, and we try to plan for all the “what if” scenarios, we use our cerebral cortex. Here, we are trying our best to resolve our anxiety and fear. The problem is it has no chance of working. The reason is twofold.
July 10, 2023
How Infidelity Therapy Can Help Repair and Rebuild Relationships
The reality is, through the right kind of infidelity therapy, not only can you heal from what you’ve endured and genuinely learn to trust your partner again, but you can also expect that the two of you will transform yourselves into new, better versions of yourselves. You can anticipate that, by the end of your infidelity therapy journey, you two will become a profoundly stronger relationship than you may have ever imagined.
June 15, 2023
Sparks Will Fly: 10 Date Night Ideas In San Diego From A Couples Therapist
Life and responsibilities got in the way and they feel disconnected from their partners and are unsure how to reconnect in a meaningful way. The good news—all of those men had hope, and if you’re reading this and are looking for a nudge in the right direction—there is hope for you too!
June 5, 2023
Why Are My Partner and I Always Fighting – and What Do I Do About It?
The 3 floors of the Sound Relationship House are the foundation for a healthy relationship. Here are those 3 ways you can strengthen your bond with your partner and finally stop feeling like you’re always fighting.
May 16, 2023
How Couple’s Therapy Can Help with Intimacy Issues
We often think intimacy means sex, when that’s only a part of it. Intimacy is about our closeness with our partner. If your relationship lacks
May 13, 2023
Taking Time For Yourself: Why Men Should Prioritize Self-Care
Modern professional men are very busy and have many responsibilities on their shoulders: providing for their families, paying bills, working, maintaining friendships, etc. With all
May 3, 2023
How Do I Know If I’m Dating the Right Person?
You just started dating someone. You’re tired of choosing someone who initially seems great and ends up hurting you worse than you could have ever
April 10, 2023
Stuck in the Roommate Phase of Your Relationship? What To Do About It!
Do you worry that you and your partner have become more roommates than lovers? Does this make you feel sad and confused, as you can’t
April 10, 2023
The Surprising Signs of Stress for Busy Professionals
It’s Monday—you’re up all night stewing on a project. Tuesday—your to-do list grows longer and longer no matter how hard you work. Wednesday, Thursday, Friday. Before you know it, that Sunday night anxiety is settling in again and the week has passed in a blur. Thus begins the story of many busy professionals as stress creeps in from every angle.
April 8, 2023
The Power of Identifying Your Strengths and Growth Areas as a Couples’ Therapist
When your relationship is filled with turmoil, chaos, and pain for many months, it can be difficult to know if your relationship will last, and if online relationship therapy can help. Beyond that, what makes couples therapy successful? and will it work for you, too?
March 20, 2023
How to Make the Most Out of Each Session with a Couples’ Therapist
Being in a relationship is a lot of hard work, and you may have turned to an online couples therapist to help you get back on track. Still, you may be wondering how to make the most out of each session with a couples therapist. As a team offering online couples therapy in Oregon, Florida, and California we have some thoughts, so check them out!
March 20, 2023
How Do Men Typically Experience Depression as Compared to Women?
When discussing depression, attention often focuses on our female friends, family members, and acquaintances who have been affected. In recent years, the women in our
March 8, 2023
Common Relationship Challenges Addressed in Couples’ Therapy
You and your partner might be wondering, even worried, whether the relationship challenges you two are enduring are rare or common. Perhaps you find that
February 27, 2023
Taking Charge of Your Mental Health: Explore the Benefits of Online Therapy for Men
Mental health is a critical component of overall well-being, yet many men struggle to prioritize and seek help for their emotional and psychological needs, or
February 11, 2023
The Role of a Marriage Counselor in Resolving Conflict in Relationships
Lately, you find that your relationship is characterized by constant fights, often over the same few topics. What makes it worse is these same topics
February 10, 2023
5 of the Biggest Relationship Enders from a San Diego Marriage Counselor
You might think that doing the right, hard daily work is crucial to having a fulfilling and lasting romantic relationship. The reality is it’s about
January 24, 2023
What is Stonewalling & How Do You Protect Your Relationship from it?
When our emotions get too intense, one of our natural responses is to shut down. This can manifest as our avoiding making eye contact, not
January 20, 2023
Online Couples Therapy: Making the First Call & How it Works
Picking up the phone for the first call for online couples therapy You deserve tremendous credit. You’ve made that first call, or are planning to,
January 17, 2023
Infidelity Therapy
You feel like your world is turned upside down. The memories you have of yourself and your partner are all now called into question. The
January 10, 2023