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Self-Esteem Building In San Diego With Jordan Zipkin, Licensed Therapist
Self-Esteem Building, in San Diego, CA
Written by Jordan Zipkin, LMFT
Are You Looking For Affirmations? Are You Feeling Guilty? Let's Build Your Self-Esteem.
Do you often think, “I’m worthless,” “I hate myself,” “I’m no good at this,” “I hate the way I look,” or “I don’t deserve good things happening to me”? Do you get stuck in the loop of thinking about the minutia of what you did wrong? Are you finding it difficult to stop thinking about the same negative thoughts over and over again?
Many of us struggle with self-esteem. Whether you don’t feel good about yourself, lack confidence, or struggle with your relationships, We know it can be difficult to view yourself in a positive light. Therapy can help you change the way you think about yourself so you can be happy, proud, and confident.
Having Low Self-Esteem Is Not Your Fault
We often hear that we are our own harshest critic. But we aren’t born that way, we’re taught to think that way. We constantly hear that we’re not good enough from others, including our parents, teachers, peers, media, and society as a whole. No wonder so many of us have a poor view of ourselves and low self-esteem.
You Can Learn To Love And Be Proud Of Yourself
Imagine loving yourself, being kind to yourself, and walking through life confidently. Psychotherapy trains you to change the way you think, leading to a more positive view of yourself so you can feel less anxious, stop beating yourself up, and start celebrating what you love about yourself and your accomplishments.
As a therapist, I’ve been helping people overcome low self-esteem for years. We can help you to see yourself in a positive light. Therapy provides you with more awareness and understanding so you begin to notice what you do well. People will low self-esteem are in the habit of only paying attention to the negatives and what they did wrong. When you only look at your faults, you’re not tuned into the moments when you’ve done something great.
You will learn how to build compassion for yourself, in part through affirmations.
Together we’ll reflect and highlight those things you did well and re-write the script. We will find moments when you did good and celebrate them. The more examples you have of what you did good, the more you challenge the unhealthy, poor self-esteem views of yourself, creating a positive belief system in yourself. As you develop better values that you’re happy about, you begin to build healthy self-esteem. The way you think about yourself and the language you use changes. Instead of asking yourself, “What did I do wrong?” you’ll ask yourself, “What did I do well? What can I do better? Where can I improve?”
Your new way of thinking will allow you to replace those negative thoughts with positive ones:
- “I’m proud of myself.”
- “I am great.”
- “I’m worthy of love and praise.”
- “I did a great job today!”
- “I love myself as I am.”
Thinking positively about yourself when you have low self-esteem is always easier said than done. We will help you find compassion for yourself, build understanding, and develop a healthy, positive sense of self.
Decrease guilt and shame. Feel good about yourself.
When you have the ability to be more compassionate towards yourself, you are able to feel good about yourself and be proud. Soon your thoughts will be positive, hopeful, encouraging. You’ll have improved self-esteem, be more confident with your partner, happier with your friends, and have healthier relationships with everyone.
Do You Have Questions Or Concerns About Self-Esteem Building Therapy?
It’s hard for an old dog to learn new tricks. I believe I can be the obstacle to getting the help I need. Can therapy work for me?
Change feels that much more overwhelming and challenging when you’ve been doing the same thing, and suffering, for so long. So much of what we do in therapy is just like learning anything new. We will expose you new tools and ideas, help you try them out both in the therapy room and in each week between sessions, and assist you in building confidence and success with regard to them. As you see the positive impact incorporating these novel ideas and skills has on your life, you’ll see that, in fact, an old dog can learn new tricks.
I have a lot of fear. I fear failure. I fear living this same lifestyle that brought me here. Will I be able to benefit from therapy with all this fear?
It’s terrifying to consider the possibility that you might fail. You certainly don’t want, and you don’t deserve, to be stuck in the same negative patterns that led you to seek help. A central part of my work with clients is to help them talk about this fear and calm it together. We’ll do everything in our power to ensure you succeed in your journey to achieve the life and the lifestyle you want.
